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Post by fleecie02 on Jan 27, 2008 21:24:20 GMT -5
I'm dating a guy for about 5 months now and everything was going great. Until recently though he started to act different. We dont go out anymore, he stopped coming over (when i had time off), and he stopped wanting to have sex cause he siad "i dont want to have a child out of wed lock" ( i could understand that a little), and over the weekend i can never seem to talk to him. i would call him but nothing, yet we talk during the week. I dont believe he would cheat on me because his ex. girlfriend cheated on him and treated him like crap. i dont know whats going on with him and its hurting me, i luv him very much and i was hoping that down the road we would get married. im just really confused and i dont know what to do. sometimes i'll cry at night because im afraid he doesn't care about me anymore. I'm a good girl to him and it's just odd how he is starting to distance himself from me. Any suggestions or even just to talk would be great.
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Post by Dorothyl on Jan 28, 2008 6:59:23 GMT -5
Hello & Welcome fleecie
5 months and he is already pulling away, stopping sexual contact with you, acting different and not taking you out into the public anymore!!!!!
He could either be: - taking a step back because he feels the relationship getting serious and he does not know what to do... -Slowing things down because of his fear of being hurt before... -seeing someone else and does not know how to tell you or is testing the waters on both ends...
My first thoughts would be to corner him and ask directly what the heck is going on. Stare him right in the eyes and watch his body language. If he acts like an animal in a cage cornered, then my sweet girl, kick him to the curb asap. That will surely tell you that he is struggling with lies. If he tells you without a doubt that he is looking for some time out to be certain about this relationship, then by all means allow him that time out.
You really must be careful here, because your own feelings are hindering your ability to see clearly.
You have not invested too much time in this relationship to be able to move on and collect your losses sweety.
Good luck with this decision!
Huggzz~D~
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Post by nirims on Jun 11, 2008 12:45:50 GMT -5
confront him and see if you can trust his answer. We women have a very good sense of understanding even a slightest degree of deviation. If you are unable to trust but would still want to continue with this person, do so..but with a practical mind of acceptance and ready for change if things doesnt work out.
You should throughly enjoy the company of whom you want to spend the rest of your life. New life should not begin with doubts, confusions, frustrations second thoughts all these are just opposite to being happy, peaceful, joyfull and hopeful
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