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Post by Jessica on Nov 28, 2014 16:03:07 GMT -5
I am 20 years old and hopelessly single. No matter what I do I can't keep a guy interested in me for more than a week. I don't understand what's wrong with me, I respect myself and I'm nice and I actually listen and care about what people have to say. So I'll meet a guy, we will text back and forth for a while, hang out once or twice but then out of nowhere he will stop texting me and then a couple weeks later he will be dating or in a relationship with someone else. Why can't I ever keep a guy? People tell me I'm beautiful and I dress nice and have a nice body (I work out about 3-5 times a week) but clearly that must be a lie because I can't keep a guy or get guys to text me back.
It really makes me feel worthless, ugly, and undeserving of love. DO NOT tell me I'm young and it will happen for me. This situation with guys has been going on since middle school so what's going to change when I'm 30? I just wish someone could tell me what's wrong with me.
My friend always gets the guy she wants and everyone always tells me how beautiful and hot she is. Of course I'm happy that she gets what she wants, but it would be nice if someone would say those things about me and I would get dates instead of staying home like a loser every weekend and being ignored and neglected by the male species. Is there any hope for me? Or should I just give up now and hope that they'll have a method in the future to help hopeless women like myself asexually reproduce since no man will ever want to date me, love me, or show interest in me.
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Post by noeleena on Nov 28, 2014 23:14:59 GMT -5
Hi Jessica,
Wellcome to our home .
Interesting im 3 times your age and a bit,and i will say something along those lines as well, yes i found it very hard to have friends and yes i looked at my self to why is it what is it about myself that says no dates or close friends , that was over 40 years ago ,and im in that place now may be age has taught me a few things ,
Each of us have gifts and beauty and in different ways and how we show that and is accepted may not allways be how we think others will accept us and some times we dont allways click, theres another part and some guys are only interested in sex and what they can get from you . dont allow your self to be used for sex,
I know its hard , and seems no one would like to get to know you as a person and find those lovely hidden away things and nature you have, dont give up dont dispear,
And dare i say it the right person is there for you just maybe he,s not ready to meet you , just yet.
Hey i would like to meet some one who will spend the next 20 years with me . and yes i wont to give up and say why bother, why look . so i have to take my own advice it,ll happen when its right, Plus those guys dont really wont to get to know the real you , do they ....
I could say the same as you no man will wont to date me ether. let a lone marry me .
yes its hard at times ,sorry theres no easy answer,
As a ? did those guys ever say why they did not wont to be around you or stay with you . give me some more info and we can talk about some details as to why there may be a reason and then we can look at that then address it and it may help you.
Take care
...noeleena...
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Post by Jessica on Dec 3, 2014 0:31:48 GMT -5
Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it. Most of the guys I have encountered in my years of adolescence and young adulthood have never said they don't want to be around me they just slowly stop contacting me. I'm the type of person that won't chase someone who doesn't want me and I understand not every guy I meet is going to be a good experience, but d**n all of them? Every last one has done the same thing: initiates contact and shows interest but after a while stops showing interest and eventually ends up blowing me off. I never confront them about it because I don't want to look desperate but it does hurt because after having the same thing happen over and over you have to start looking at yourself and not others.
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Post by noeleena on Dec 3, 2014 1:49:20 GMT -5
Hi, Jessica,
Dont wont to look desperate, and happening time and time again. okay some feed back then , your friend would she get told any thing from the guys ,you could ask her ,
If you do see one of the guys i would ask in a nice way why your friendship has stopped , or may be some think youv done or said , this is the only other way of finding out , you dont need to confront them just make it a off hand way of asking , even make it a bit of fun.
i know what its like yes your so right it does hurt and makes you feel worth less.
I,v had to learn to keep my mouth shut some times concerning my self, and talking about myself , look it could be just a simple thing , all im saying is for peace of mind if nothing else at least do find out, Hey i know we blame our selfs when things go wrong even if its not us ,
All we can do with out continuley being upset is think well , i,ll look at my self and work through what ever it is and find a way to correct it , just have a talk with your close friend because she may just see something you have missed . yes i know looking at our self ,
my friend did this for me and yes i saw where i messed up hey yes it was hard to admit , Part of not being perfect , if we can learn from that experiance then we can move on ,
Tell me some more about your self = like,s and dislikes, things you like doing .
Are there any groups your a member of or would like to join ,
Catch ya next time.
have a nice evening . ...noeleena...
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