Why a self-esteem site?

[Dorothyl]

Why not a self-esteem site! I have learnt that women are in great need for a place to just come and `spill their beans `so to speak. In our site we can share our fears and weaknesses with other women that feel the same as we do on a daily basis. We can redirect our frustrations on our keyboards and noone will ever be offeneded or hurt by what we share .

In this world we are faced with society`s idea of what we are suppose to look like if we are to succeed in our work place, even our relationships. Our reality has turned into a fantasy of perfect people.

Well in our self-esteem site we are real and we will support any women that feels the lows and the pressures of the world today.

I have brought this site to you so that you can smile at least once a day, and help you find the strength to deal with your fears and tackle your weaknesses, but most importantly to help you find the goodness that is inside of you so that you can live a peaceful and happy life.

Ladies enjoy and KEEP SMILING

[Kelly]

I saw this on your self-esteem tips page and it really said it all for me. It really makes you think about it.

"Raising ones self-esteem takes changes in behavior.

Behavior will change with practice and intention. Self-esteem is an achievement--a process that empowers, energizes and motivates. It is not something that we have, but the experience of things that we do. Self-esteem is the experience of being capable of meeting life's challenges and being worthy of happiness."

Just incase someone didnt see it. It meant a lot to me when I read it.

[Dorothy]

Hey Kelly girl... I so agree with you and thats why it is there..and it is so good to see you back, I missed you. Kelly if you have any suggestions please do not hold them back.. I need all the help iI can get.. Take care girl and do Keep Smiling

[candice]

:)Good Morning

It has been a while since I have been in here and it is good to be back. So mny new things in here . I really enjoy your blog and the new selfesteem tips section.

I seem to be ok with myself as long as I am alone and the people we are with are friends that I can trust are not going to talk about me behind my back. I am always worried that something is undone and people are laughing. Like my button or my hair is not just right or maybe there is something on my face. My husband says I have a problem and that I should see a doctor.

Why is it when you see other women they look so together and they seem to have it all, confidence and beauty. When we go to the beach all the women do everything in their bathing suits and do not seem to care they are half nakid. Me, I cannot even walk on the beach without wearing a shirt or some kind of cover up. I am in fairly good shape for my age and my husband tells me that I am hot but when I look at me, I always see things that I do not see on other women.
I fear getting older, I even have dreams about that.
Dorothy your blogs help me a lot. I read your thoughts and I feel almost stronger.
I think thats why I stayed away from here before, I felt like everything I am is right here in your site, but it somehow made me not so scared about things.

I am glad I came back. I hope other women are getting help from here also. Have a real good day all!

[glow=red,2,300] :)Candice[/glow]

[Dorothyl]

Hey Candice
Thank you so much for sharing with us. What you are asking is simple. Some of us have higher self-esteem and some of us have lower self-esteem. Some have higher confidence and some of us have lower confidence. Some just plain do not care what people think. I unsnderstand what you mean though. But sweety for you to worry that people are looking at you strangely is not so unnormal. You are just a bit more worried than most. When you see that someone is looking at you, instead of thinking that they see u as wierd, think to yourself, maybe they are admiring something in you that they themselves lack. This will help you to at least cut your worries in half. Thats a big start. Huggz girl!
KEEP SMILING!!

[shelby]

Hello Ladies

Candice, you really have to just beleive in yourself. I have starte a new life and I am better for it. At first I worried so about what others were saying behind my back, but now I know that I did a good thing by leaving my husband. Please do not think that I am telling people to do that. My relationship was full of abuse for so long that I thought it was the way . Meeting women in here and reading so many positive strengthening words gave me an insight that my husband worked very hard to blind me from. He hit me the last time and that was when he did me a favour. He woke me up and all the things I read about GAINING STRENGTH from here and my best friend, finally started to be very clear. It is a good feeling to feel good about me. I have a long way to go yet, and I know I will be tempted to take him back now and then. I think that will be just from habit. As Dorothy says we have good habits and bad habits, we have to identify with them and put them in order is all. I want to thank all you girls for all your conforting and strong comments sent to me. Who would have ever thought people you never even met could play such an important part in your life. So Candice, just keep talking and trying to build your strength.
As Dorothy would say, KEEP SMILING!

[stacy]

Shelby - Glad to see you back... I was worried...
You sound like you are off to a great start...one step at a time...All of our struggles we need to handle one step at a time...If you try to handle it all at once it can be very overwhelming. I am sending good vibes your way..this site has been a Godsend to me and I hope as a group we can lift eachother up to a place that we can all love ourselves. Remember, especially in rough times, treat yourself like you would a good friend.....we deserve it! **Stacy**

[belinda]

Hey all , how is everyone doin?

Shelby, I am prayin for you and for your life. It is hard to just live ne ver mind to have so many changes at your feet. God loves you and is watching over you. He has already given you strenght to kick that man out of your life. He should not have hurt his woman ever. Shame on him and any man that hurts his woman.

I am here for you and I know the other girls are too.
You are in my prayers/ take care of you, as dorothy says.