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Post by Dorothyl on Jun 6, 2005 15:25:55 GMT -5
Happy Birthday Shelby!!
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Post by Stacy W on Jun 7, 2005 9:17:26 GMT -5
Happy Birthday Shelby!!! I hope this is your best year yet!!!
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Post by heather on Jun 7, 2005 14:05:02 GMT -5
HAppy Belated birthday. I hope your day was as special as you are!
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Post by shelby on Jun 10, 2005 19:22:08 GMT -5
Hi Stacy and Heather and thank you so much for the birthday wishes. Also I guess thanks to Dorothy also for even remembering. I am so touched that anyone would even care and the funniest part is that I do not even know any of you. Yet my husband who i have lived and raised children with did not even remember till like 2 days later. Is that door matt syndrome or just his case of forgetfulness which is what his excuse was. I have been feeling very negative thoughts toward him lately. It is like I have had enough and all the times that I stayed quiet have risenI crazy? I feel more appreciated in here and with total strangers, how bad is that. Ladies you made me feel like I matter more than most have lately. thank you!
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Post by stacy on Jun 10, 2005 19:56:18 GMT -5
Funny...I have one of those too!!! My husband is often so emotionally unavailable it makes me want to scream just to get some sort of reaction.
Shelby....as Dorothy once told me...you can never depend on someone else to make you happy....it is a recipe for disaster...
Do at least one nice thing for yourself EVERYDAY...sorta like you'd do for a friend who was low. (Funny how we easily lift others up and ignore ourselves).....you'd be surprised that it will make you feel good and that you do matter....
I'm on a diet but if I wasn't I'd make myself a plate of brownies RIGHT NOW...so instead my gift to myself is getting online with the ladies here.
Have a great day...
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Post by Dorothyl on Jun 12, 2005 8:04:21 GMT -5
Hey Stacy...we luv you girl. Diet eh!! Well there are diet brownies out there you know. I think that most men tend to forget things, it is because they are genetically not made to remember, afterall women are the ones that give birth. We are the ones that have more genetic survival brain waves and we have so much more to remember with raising children that we have to be sharper in that area. Granted there are also some women that have a bad memory too. Tell me ladies how do your husbands react when you forget their special days? I wonder what it is like when the shoe is on the other foot.Ha It is nice to have friends, thats when they come into play, they tend to remember things that others forget. Depend on you first and anything above that is truly a bonus. Also there are less disapointments we have to deal with. Smile ladies....its free!
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Post by shelby on Jun 12, 2005 9:01:03 GMT -5
Stacy Hi there, thank you for your support. I think your husband should really look at how beautiful you are in all ways. I am on a diet also, it is not very easy either. But I am doing it for me, not for my husband. I tried many times to diet for him and all it got me was more hurtful names. Through this site I have learnt very quickly that as you said, I need to treat me like my best friend. If you need any ideas on your diet, ask me, I have read all the books. It so nice to read your comments. Dorothy and you have become very good freinds to me through here. Thank you so much for caring. Shelby
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Post by stacy on Jun 13, 2005 20:13:59 GMT -5
Hello...diet ...In my house we do not use the "F" word...the word being FAT. I have been battling with my weight for as long as I can remember...it really has been extra hard since kids. I think I use my weight as an excuse ... kinda like a protective coating... If I stay large I know it makes me unhappy so I can say I am unhappy because of my weight.....therefore if I lost weight I'd have to be happy and I really don't know how to do that....PHYSCHO!!!!!!! My "downer" on myself for being overweight seems to get worse as I get older because not only are there so many women thinner than me now there are lots of them THINNER and YOUNGER!!!! BUT.....I will beat this beast ... I have lost 70 pounds and need to lose another 50...then I am going to get a body makeover (skin removal, boob lift...the works) and stand BUTT naked in front of my husband and not let him touch me ;D (just kidn)...I think part of my reluctance to lose weight is that I feel deep down people should like me for who I am inside...take it or leave it...but society disagrees Anyway enough of this...HEY what have you done for yourself today? ? Today mine was retail therapy.... "Live with intention Walk to the edge Listen hard Practice Wellness Play with abandon Laugh Choose with no regret Continue to learn Appreciate your friends Do what you love Live as if this is all there is" - Mary Anne Radmacher
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Post by Dorothyl on Jun 16, 2005 18:57:26 GMT -5
;D Oh My I truly wish I had boobs to lift. Hey Stacy share please. I mean we are here to share , are we not. Jeesh and I thought I had a hard list of tips. Stacy you amazing female, I already have my freinds, and I totally thank my need to search for support, thats where we met. Listen hard, duh...thats going to be hard for me, thats one of my worst habits. Live life like I mean it, I like the way I say it better. Carp Diem ladies.. Sieze The Day
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Post by aegurl on Jun 17, 2005 19:28:47 GMT -5
Happy B-day though belated Shelby! Remember that husbands, men etc...were not made the way we women were. We were made special and girlfriends will be always there for you... Time passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up. Marriages fail. Love waxes and wanes. Hearts break. Careers end. Jobs come and go. Parents die. Colleagues forget favors. Men don't call when they say they will... But girlfriends are there... no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.... A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rule and walk beside you... or come in and carry you out.. Best wishes for a wonderful year!
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